Hi there,
Alienation is a strong term..
It's difficult to know how to assist you here, as you haven't said why you
feel distance from your children. However I hope the following helps.
Have you tried sitting down and talking, preferably in a neutral setting?
It
is usual for children to react to parents in a less than wonderful way.
often projecting their anxiety onto you, for example:
A child may say "I hate you" Sometimes this should be read as "you hate
me"
if using a Psychoanalytical approach. Try reversing negative with a
positive. When a child screams "I hate you" disregard your anger at their
behaviour and reply "I love you" or something similar. Try to ignore the
bad
behaviour unless dangerous, and reward the good behaviour, this is in
essence a way of programming or "encouraging" good behaviour, an example
of
a reward could be a trip to the movies, or even watching the T.V later,
something like that. The key here is not to make the rewards to extreme,
or
else you could find your wallet under pressure!! :)
Best of luck
J , psychologist based in the UK,
"dejapka" <japka@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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>I am a father who is losing the close relation****ps with my children and
I
> am looking for help.
>
> Does anybody have a recommendation for a person or practice who is
> experienced in "parental alienation" and divorce. We are in Southern New
> Jersey, USA in the Philadelphia metropolitan area.
>
> Please respond to: japka@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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